Ash, I hope you know you are a badass, wonderful father. I'm so glad you took the time to write about this important topic. I am really impressed with the emphasis on respect and consent in this book: Let's Talk About S-E-X: A Guide for Kids 9 to 12 and Their Parents, published by Planned Parenthood. I know your boys are older, but maybe this will help someone else. I'd be interested in other book recommendations on this subject. This one is really geared more towards kids than parents and speaks predominantly of heterosexuality. I appreciated the science + emphasis on respect/consent.