Thank you so much for popping by and reading my reflection.
Yes--that's such a succinct way to phrase it: clutter represented my own inner judgments. When I released that representation it made working with it feel neutral instead of mean.
"Criticism creates barriers, compassion dissolves them." This is so true. It took me 20+ years to come to this in my marriage, too. And, finding the compassion while communicating instead of criticizing while communicating is so much more productive and feels so much better.
I'd love a link to Miki's article. Thank you!