Kate, As you can probably tell from my highlighting your article resonates with me in so many ways. My firstborn is/was "complicated" and I also learned a lot from him. Our children teach us so much!
I mainly want to say thank you for sharing your beautiful work, words, and wisdom with Age of Empathy.
I think finding this place of holding vulnerability and boundaries is the sweet spot.
And, I think doing this kind of work is world-changing. I'm so glad you found your path and are teaching your insights now.