This is an interesting thought-provoking read! When viewed through the lens of bicultural bias like ability/authenticity doesn’t have a fair playing field.
In my previous example, the person was another white Roman who felt overly comfortable getting in my personal space, even touching my face after having known me for a week or two. I’m reserved and that type of behavior sets off triggers. In that instance, I needed to be reassured it was ok not to like that behavior.
It seems some of us are more predisposed to be open minded and give people a chance to be authentic where others are more close minded and await proof of one’s likability/authenticity.