This is such a deep and important topic. I am white so I don't relate to everything here--and, it's important that we all get a grasp on one another's experiences so we can be more inclusive, kind, and knowledgeable about our world and each other.
You've given me so much to think about that I hadn't considered before--Thank you.
Your personal progression from feeling like an outcast to being lifted up and included at a work function weaves a wonderful thread through all of your research.