Yes! It's a challenge with my ISTJ hubs. Our room is a mess right now...I need to clean it. It's all my crap. I don't care. But, he does--and I love the guy. I just avoid, avoid, avoid. And, I wonder why the heck didn't I get that part of OCD?! It's really wild how our brains work.
ESFJ is a really fun personality type. We'd get along well irl, I bet. :)
I appreciate your willingness to be open to how other temperaments feel about cleaning and organizing. Always dig your empathy!